Here following is a summary of a talk given on video by a lady named Molly Kelly. It is an excellent resource. Unfortunately, I am not aware as to the whereabouts of the video.

Molly Kelly’s talk - Chastity and Teens - A Summary

• Teens are an impressive generation
• Teen pregnancies are studied by adults only - they tell teens that they know what is best for them
• adults say "They can’t say no!" so teens say ‘ we can’t say no ! "
• Teens ( T ) are capable of being sexually responsible but this means different things to different people - taking a pill OR self control
• We need the will power to change and we must realise that we are accountable for our actions
• We can’t blame the contraceptive device if sex results in pregnancy etc.
• Contraception is a put down to teens - a million dollar industry and teens are targeted
• No parental consent is needed and yet if a school is to administer any simple drug to a student then parental permission is required. Why the hypocrisy?
• Contraception is not fool proof. You can’t give a 100% money back guarantee which is really great for those users who still end up with pregnancies, VD, AIDS etc.
• the people at the top give us these " tools " to stop teenage pregnancies but they serve only to be a tool for them, as well as diseases
• Sex is a controllable gift not as the world says it is - something, which is uncontrollable, an animal instinct, safe outside marriage despite promiscuity because there is always contraception to help make the decision for you.
• Safe? What about - death, emotional, psychological consequences?
• Animal Instinct? - Have you seen an elephant pregnancy crisis care office?
• We are not animals - not governed by instincts. We have free will and express a spiritual, emotional side to our sexuality.
• Times have changed - today more pressures than 40 years ago. AIDS, many VD's, not just 4. Contraception and yet MORE pregnancies, incidence of sexual arousal multiplied many times over, sex is sold as a commodity, sexual messages everywhere, teen movies made just for you
• Why less contraception, less pregnancies, more contraception, more pregnancies and disease ?

Is being in love enough?

Why doe s one need to be married in order to engage in sexual activity?

• The union of a man and woman must be made permanent by a stable bond that is a life-long commitment in order to avoid being affected by whims and impulsive behaviour, emotional scarring when it doesn’t work out and a feeling of being used as simply an object.
• All sexual acts must be open to life
• Children have the right to be brought up in a stable union by a mother and a father. Science and psychology testify to the benefits of such a " Family Community " and the detrimental effects of a situation where such a life - long family does not exist.
• Love has certain characteristics which can only be fulfilled in marriage by God’s grace - hence the need for marriage in the presence of God
• Fully human - love in marriage is of the body AND of the spirit
• Total - a complete sharing without undue reservations or selfishness which is not possible in a de-facto relationship where there is no commitment
• Faithful and exclusive until death - the source of profound and lasting happiness. Refusal to make the commitment to death and to maintain that commitment (barring abuse) indicates that the pair do not know love, only lust or a misguided understanding of what love is.
• Fruitful - Open to the supreme gift of marriage, which will in turn contribute to the parents', own happiness. Children also symbolise the eternal love between a man and a woman. To love and want children is also to love your spouse and share yourself in the most visible way.
• Sacrificial - true love seeks the best for the other and is sacrificial , a complete self giving of one’s life for the other

How does abuse of our sexuality start and what does it lead to?

• desensitisation to immodest trends in the media and the fashion - ( from " shameful and disgusting " to " wicked" or "cool")
• taking on certain fashions which lead to temptation of self and the opposite sex and a constant thinking about sex
• enjoyment of sexual arousal resulting from all the above sexual messages
• increased sexual arousal resulting form the constant barrage of these sexual messages
• belief that these urges are so strong that they can’t and shouldn’t be controlled
• rejection of teachings, institutions and people who represent an attack on these things which we enjoy and see as natural and acceptable because most people are doing them - hip fashions, fast and irreverent music, shows which turn promiscuity etc. into a joke , making the church’s concern over abortion, teen pregnancy etc. seem laughable
• If the church is therefore outdated and wrong, then so is Jesus.
• Freedom is therefore not what the church teaches but what society teaches - do what you want and be free from the church’s chains!
• Church is therefore wrong on a number of accounts - loss of faith