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"L" is for LISTEN. I can have all the great ideas in the world about how I think I can make my partner feel loved. But with all the inventive or creative genius in the world, I'll probably fail miserably if I don't listen to them. Flowers brought home every night or weekly to a woman might not be as important to her as a sincere hug or kiss when you come in the door. Or the hug or kiss may mean little if she feels the need of telling me of her frustrations and I just keep my head buried in the evening paper or eyes glued on the TV screen. We have to listen carefully. We need to accept but not necessarily agree with what our partner may be saying. It is reflective of what is inside them. If it is "feelings" that they are expressing then don't try to use logic as your reply right away. There may come the time when logic is needed but not right then. When I want to show my love, do I respond to how they have told me they feel loved? In listening, allow the person to get out their own thoughts and feelings and don't interject anything unless they seem to be stumbling for a word or two. Just a word or two--not complete what you may think is their whole idea.
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